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Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
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Monday, July 20, 2009

Rick and Bubba's Guide to the Almost Nearly Perfect Marriage


Radio comics Rick Burgess and Bill “Bubba” Bussey have returned to the publishing world with their newest release. Rick & Bubba’s Guide to the Almost Nearly Perfect Marriage is a quick, easy to read collection of topics relevant to most couples. The forty-five chapters read like short humor pieces or columns. In this collection, the authors address such topics as: finding a mate, conflict, shopping, money and debt, respect, pregnancy, and grief and tragedy. They do this with the humor and style they have become known for. This is a pretty funny book.

That being said, the use of the word “guide” in the title should not be taken literally. While the book is funny, the advice is often not quite grounded in reality nor centered in the Word of God. It plays into the cultural stereotype that all wives blame their husbands for everything, thus belittling and devaluing the role and position of the husband as the head of the wife. While the Bible clearly teaches this position, Rick and Bubba do precious little to correct and teach their readers. There are other examples, but this is one of the most glaring.

If you want a decent laugh, I can recommend this book. If you are looking for guidance and advice for your marriage relationship, I think you should look elsewhere.

More information about Rick & Bubba’s Guide to the Almost Nearly Perfect Marriage can be found at Thomas Nelson’s product page. I am a member of Thomas Nelson’s Book Review Blogger program.


Friday, June 19, 2009

Coolness and Cussing

I am sure that there have always been preachers and pastors who made a habit of using coarse or crude language. Maybe they even outright cussed. I suspect most, if not all of these preachers were somewhere out on the fringe. I remember Gene Scott used to sit in his recliner smoking cigars, drinking scotch, and cussing as he "taught" and "preached".

In 2003, Thomas Neslon published Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller. About half way through the book, he introduces us to Mark. Mark pastors a church in Seattle and says a lot of cuss words. Mark is Mark Driscoll, pastor of Mars Hill Church in Seattle. In Driscoll's defense, he doesn't cuss anymore. He does a really good job, I think, of watching his language. He can be a little coarse or crude sometimes, but he doesn't really cuss.

Ed Young of Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas, recently posted this video about preachers who cuss. I think it is a wise admonition to those who speak the truth of the Gospel. Warning: Young demonstrates some of the language he warns about.




What do you think about Young's take on this? How far should preachers go with their language in trying to relate to their audience?

Friday, January 23, 2009

Fortune Cookie Advice


I enjoy Chinese food. It seems like I can't get enough lately. Today I had lunch at one of my favorite Chinese restaurants in Tyler. As I neared the end of my meal, I was given that absolute staple of American Chinese food, the fortune cookie. I am always interested to see what it says my fortune is. I don't place any stock in it, but I find it interesting. The fortunes are generally so vague that they would apply to anyone at anytime. Today, my fortune read: "This year your highest priority should be your family." See what I mean? So generic. So true. As a husband and father, my highest priority (outside of God) should be my family. I should prioritize there needs above mine. It is my responsibility to see that they are cared for. It is so easy to make school (for me) or work or ministry the thing that takes most of my time. But it shouldn't. She who must be obeyed should get my time and attention. I am a model for my children. Heavy, very heavy. This advice from the fortune cookie was a timely reminder for me. I hope it is for you, as well.

PS: My lucky numbers are 9, 22, 27, 32, 43, 44. Good luck.